Intimacy in Stressful Circumstances

Written by Mariah Speranza, Psychology Assistant

Intimacy and the expression of this intimacy is often narrowed, focusing on intercourse and sexual performance. Sexual issues are often unaddressed during chronic illness, due to the various factors such as discomfort, shame, and fear of embarrassing clients and relatives. To overcome barriers, a non-judgemental yet professional and competent attitude is required to empower the person and the relationship as a unit, and not the illness. 

The biopsychosocial model of illness may include physical hurdles such as scarring, pain, decreased mobility, and shortness of breath. Psychosocial issues encompass body image, sexual identity, and mood fluctuations. Sexuality and intimacy requires the timing of medication and day to relieve pain and fatigue. This may unfortunately lead to a sense of loss of control. The affection is newly reframed and one may grieve for the loss of the previous intimate life. 

The distress may lead to criticism, resentment, partner burnout and a lack of intimacy. During therapy, a flexible yet guided discussion helps to understand what is happening and the changes in relationship, to reframe the difficult thoughts and reconnect with the partner.

The affection is newly reframed and one may grieve for the loss of the previous intimate life. 

The therapeutic approach supports the reinforcement of intimacy during the relationship’s dire times as emotional intimacy emphasises a sense of belonging. 

As in all cases, each couple’s needs are assessed on a case by case basis and we are here to help in the best way we can, offering a variety of approaches that would best suit each client.

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